While doing our Fan the Flame Marriage Intensives for Christian couples who want to save their marriages … we’ve heard a lot of interesting reasons why they thought about ending their relationships. Here’s a few …
- “We’ve drifted apart.”This classic cop out says “we’ve lost those loving feelings;” and we’re too lazy to work to bring them back … it’s easier to find a new lover than it is to rekindle our marriage” Wrong! Not only is this unbiblical … but research reveals that it is easier to re-kindle an existing marriage than it is to create a new one.
- “We fight all the time.” Conflict is a good thing … it shows that there is an emotional connection! We rarely fight with people we don’t have a relationship with … we want them to see things our way. Learning how to resolve conflicts actually builds intimacy … even if it means we’ve learned something new that upsets our spouse!
- “We flunked counseling!” Counselors are not magicians! Be patient. Realize that the issues in your marriage have been festering for years and won’t be fixed in three or four sessions.
- “My parents never approved!” I’m amazed when parents want to break up their kid’s marriages! Genesis 2:24 says a man should “leave his father and his mother, and cleave to his wife.” Couples who can effectively distance themselves from parental control will reap the rewards of a stronger marriage.
- “We were young and foolish!” Young couples in love can make unwise decisions! So, you parents reading this … urge your kids to get pre-marital counseling. Be sure they are confronted with the fact that marriage is a lifelong adult commitment.
- “God told me to marry someone else.” This is absurd … but I have heard it from a former pastor. Listen, God will never tell you to do something that clearly contradicts the Bible!
If you’re having marital problems, and think divorce is your only option, stop and take a deep breath. Ask God to give you His counsel—and seek help from Christian friends.
Our Heavenly Father’s love and mercy may surprise you.
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Lancaster Host Resort, PA – Marriage Retreat and Special Guest Musician – Matt & Kim Goss – October 9 – 11, 2015
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Dr. Bruce and Karen McCracken, founders of House on the Rock Family Ministries will lead you and your spouse through a weekend filled with laughter, romance and re-connection.
Bruce and Karen have been married for over 40 years and have been leading couples events for 25 years. They bring practical advice for couples … filled with grace that has been tempered by their experience together.
Matt and Kim Goss have been married for 19 years. Matt has been on staff as Worship Pastor of LCBC Church in Manheim, PA since 1999. In that time the church grew from 700 to over 10,000 people! He is a featured worship leader and speaker at Integrity Music Seminars and many other conferences each year.
Kim is also a prolific singer, songwriter and worship leader. Her much anticipated debut CD was released in Feb. 2011.
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What is a “Fan the Flame Marriage Intensive”?
Our marriage intensives are more than a couple’s weekend retreat. They are intimate, personalized coaching sessions designed to help you identify and address your specific needs. Intensives are more powerful than one hour counseling sessions because they keep you both focused on your issues for an extended period of time. You will receive over 15 hours of personalized counseling, coaching and marriage building exercises that will fan the flame of your marriage back to life.
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