Let’s face it … we live in a culture where we’re quickly bored. We change jobs … channels … and conversation topics in the blink of an eye. Today’s media knows this and bombards its ADD audience with sound bite messages every 15 to 30 seconds …
Unfortunately many of us who are married … have lost interest in our spouses and our marriages! We stop having meaningful conversations … and even stop fighting because we don’t care … we stop dating and trying to impress each other … our love life becomes routine and predictable … we value our relationships with friends more than we do each other … we’ve grown into couch potatoes … who feel more like brothers and sisters than we do husbands and wives … does any of this sound familiar? If so, boredom may be beating your marriage.
Boredom is an enemy of marriage and intimacy. New research tells us that bored spouses are rapidly drifting toward divorce … believing a new spouse will bring back the excitement.
So how do we keep from getting bored in our marriage? We can’t change spouses like we do TV channels … so let’s see if we can find some ways to beat boredom … before it beats us:
Look for ways that you can become a more exciting spouse … it’s not your spouse’s fault that you are bored … you’ve become boring! Start by remembering what you loved to do together when you were dating? Rekindle some of those activities. Now look for some more fun things that the two of you can enjoy together … get some bikes or kayaks …plan to visit every park in your region … take dance lessons … start a garden … join a book club … plan a vacation or trip together.
Attend a marriage conference or retreat to get some helpful information and encouragement to strengthen your relationship. Deepening Intimacy is an adventure in itself because it involves getting to know all there is to know about each other … and I’ll bet you two still have a lot to discover about one-another.
Knee to Knee … Nose to Nose Questions
1 – What are some symptoms we are seeing that may indicate we’re getting a little bored in our relationship?
2 – How have I become boring? Why? What do I need to do to remedy this?
3 – What were some of the fun things we did while we were dating that have stopped? How can we bring some of those back into our lives?
4 – What are some new things we can do together that would help us beat the boredom that could beat us?
5 – What’s our plan? What are the first three things we are going to do to break out of boring? Set your goals … execute your plan …
Join us for a Marriage Retreat! (Early Bird Prices NOW through June 1st)
Lancaster Host Resort, PA – Marriage Retreat and Special Guest Musician – Matt & Kim Goss – October 9 – 11, 2015
Dr. Bruce and Karen McCracken, founders of House on the Rock Family Ministries will lead you and your spouse through a weekend filled with laughter, romance and re-connection.
Bruce and Karen have been married for over 40 years and have been leading couples events for 25 years. They bring practical advice for couples … filled with grace that has been tempered by their experience together.
Matt and Kim Goss have been married for 19 years. Matt has been on staff as Worship Pastor of LCBC Church in Manheim, PA since 1999. In that time the church grew from 700 to over 10,000 people! He is a featured worship leader and speaker at Integrity Music Seminars and many other conferences each year.
Kim is also a prolific singer, songwriter and worship leader. Her much anticipated debut CD was released in Feb. 2011.
Our marriage intensives are more than a couple’s weekend retreat. They are intimate, personalized coaching sessions designed to help you identify and address your specific needs. Intensives are more powerful than one hour counseling sessions because they keep you both focused on your issues for an extended period of time. You will receive over 15 hours of personalized counseling, coaching and marriage building exercises that will fan the flame of your marriage back to life.