Our daily exposure to superficial noise via the internet, social media, TV, and radio makes it easy for us to become immune to significant communication. We’ve become a sound bite culture; and we can’t build meaningful relationships with sound bites!
Jesus made a habit of getting away from the “noise” in His everyday life to have some meaningful communication with His Heavenly Father. He was intentional about dedicating blocks of uninterrupted time to focus on His most important relationship.
So as couples, we need to work hard at nurturing meaningful conversations that will build the most important earthly relationships we have with our spouses.
Here are 5 tips on how to make the best use of the times we do find to meaningfully connect:
1. Set a regular time and place. Look at your calendars and schedule at least one block of time per week for some uninterrupted conversation.
2. Get ready. What are the two most important things we need to talk about? Is it a major decision deadline that’s approaching? Is it a problem between the two of you or with the kids? Develop your agenda so you’re ready to discuss the important things first.
3. Stay on topic. Once a good conversation gets rolling it’s tempting to “dump the whole load” of what you’ve wanted to discuss over the last six months. Unfortunately, that usually leads to information overload, confusion; and the frustrated feeling of “What are we talking about?”
4. Be sensitive to the time. When your conversation gets too deep or goes too long, intellectual and emotional fatigue comes into play. Even if the conversation is going great stop and ask: “Do you want to keep talking about this?” Your goal is for the conversation to end positively and productively!
5. Close with: “Thank you … I appreciate you listening to me.” The conversation will eventually weaken. One of you may withdrawal or explode. These symptoms indicate that it’s time to stop before all your good conversation morphs into a bad conflict. End your time by reviewing any decisions that were made. Be sure to close with: Thanks for listening … I’m glad we got to talk about this.”
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Lancaster Host Resort, PA – Marriage Retreat and Special Guest Musician – Matt & Kim Goss – October 9 – 11, 2015
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Dr. Bruce and Karen McCracken, founders of House on the Rock Family Ministries will lead you and your spouse through a weekend filled with laughter, romance and re-connection.
Bruce and Karen have been married for over 40 years and have been leading couples events for 25 years. They bring practical advice for couples … filled with grace that has been tempered by their experience together.
Matt and Kim Goss have been married for 19 years. Matt has been on staff as Worship Pastor of LCBC Church in Manheim, PA since 1999. In that time the church grew from 700 to over 10,000 people! He is a featured worship leader and speaker at Integrity Music Seminars and many other conferences each year.
Kim is also a prolific singer, songwriter and worship leader. Her much anticipated debut CD was released in Feb. 2011.
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