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The 12 Questions of Christmas!

Here’s a fun Christmas activity to help you learn more about your spouse!

The 12 Questions of Christmas …

  1. What is your favorite childhood Christmas memory?
  2.  What was the best Christmas gift ever?
  3.  What is your favorite non-Biblical Christmas story or movie?
  4.  What do you like most about Christmas time?
  5.  What do you find most annoying about Christmas time?
  6.  Do you have a family Christmas tradition … if so what is it … how did it start?
  7.  What’s your favorite Christmas carol or song?
  8.  If you could travel anywhere to celebrate a dream Christmas (with all your loved ones) … where would you go?  Why?
  9.  What’s your favorite Christmas “food” and / or “drink”? 
  10.  What’s the best thing that happened to you since last Christmas?
  11.  What do you do to keep Christ in Christmas?
  12.  Who is the easiest person to shop for?  The hardest? Why?

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What is a “Fan the Flame Marriage Intensive”?

Our marriage intensives are more than a couple’s weekend retreat. They are intimate, personalized coaching sessions designed to help you identify and address your specific needs. Intensives are more powerful than one hour counseling sessions because they keep you both focused on your issues for an extended period of time. You will receive over 15 hours of personalized counseling, coaching and marriage building exercises that will fan the flame of your marriage back to life.

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4 Ways for Husbands and Wives to Face the Holidays as a Team!

These days between Thanksgiving and Christmas can be filled with either lots of joy … or loads of stress.  What makes them happy or nerve-wracking is all in how you as a couple plan to handle them.

Many spouses struggle because one wants “heavenly peace” … while the other wants to “deck the halls.  If you and your mate have different ideas about what makes these days “merry and bright” … here are 4 suggestions to help get ready

  1. Set Realistic Expectations

What do you want this holiday season to feel like — relaxed or action packed?  Talk about what your holiday expectations are as a couple and for your family.  Discuss your calendar, how busy do you want to be?  Plan your budget, how much do you want to spend?  And maybe even talk about the menu.  Compromise may be a gift you can give to each other.

  1. Guard Your Together Time

Don’t let the crowded calendar of the holidays snuff out your couple time.  Schedule your “dates” in advance and build the rest or your schedule around them.  These are more important than most of what is going to be on your docket.  You need to make sure that you stay connected during the hubbub of the season.

  1. Keep Christ in Christmas

The holidays provide plenty of opportunities to focus on the true reason for the season.  One way is to get your family involved in giving to those who are less fortunate.  Serve food at a local church or mission, sing carols at the retirement village, or help your kids give their toys to others.  Make sure your decorations and celebrations are Christ centered to help you keep the true meaning of Christmas front and center.

  1. Deal with Conflict Quickly

All of the hustle and bustle of these days is a breeding ground for conflict.  The keys to resolving disagreements well are to attack the problem … not the person; and to seek a “win-win” solution … not an “I win – you lose” mentality.  Don’t let unresolved conflicts ruin your celebration of the Prince of Peace.

Taking the time to prepare for this very special season with your spouse and family may truly make this “the most wonderful time of the year!”


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Our marriage intensives are more than a couple’s weekend retreat. They are intimate, personalized coaching sessions designed to help you identify and address your specific needs. Intensives are more powerful than one hour counseling sessions because they keep you both focused on your issues for an extended period of time. You will receive over 15 hours of personalized counseling, coaching and marriage building exercises that will fan the flame of your marriage back to life.

Upcoming Intensives
 – Dec. 4-6, 2015 (Sandy Cove) Md
– Jan. 15-17, 2016 (Black Rock Retreat) Lancaster, Pa
– Feb. 26-28, (Sandy Cove) Md

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How to Keep Christmas from being the “Most Stressful Time of the Year for Couples!”

We’ve all heard that song … it’s the most wonderful time of the year … But is it?

Many of us set high and unrealistic expectations about what our Christmas should look like … add to that the buying gifts for kids and family … planning family gatherings … work parties … church programs and socials … wow sounds like the most hectic time of year.

Oh, and one other thing: Wives and husbands hope Christmastime will be special for them too, as a couple.  But will it be?

More often than not these overloaded schedules with everyone else’s high expectations and the competing demands of family, friends and workplace associates, Christmastime is stressful for couples.  Some wives and husbands feel that at best, they can muddle along until January.

Many times — patience with each other runs thin for a wife and husband during the holidays. For a variety of reasons, stress gains the upper hand between them.

– One spouse frets that Christmas is unaffordable.  He or she feels stressed-out by the cost of Christmas gifts, travel and entertainment.

– The other spouse experiences the stress of workplace demands that collide with their family’s overcrowded schedule of holiday festivities at school and church, with family and friends, or for shopping.

– Then there is the stress that is caused by the mere logistics of Christmas and the challenge of finding ways to celebrate with two to four sets of grandparents and extended or step family celebrations.

– Couples who desire to keep Christ in Christmas cringe when the season’s real purpose gets left in the shadows, eclipsed by so much else that is happening.

So what can you do to help reduce some of this stress?

Sit down and prepare a budget … set a limit of what you are going to spend … encourage each other not to be too impulsive …

Sit down with your calendar to schedule your activities and work through the logistics … keep from making last minute crisis inspired decisions.  Keep your priorities of faith and family at the forefront of this process.

This is a time where you need each other … where you need to be on the same page united to deal with all the stresses and strains that come with this most wonderful time of the year!


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